Choosing Me: The Intentionally Single Woman's Guide to Knowing When to Try Again — and When Not To
A 20-page guide for women who are intentionally single and figuring out what comes next. Covers the research, the healed vs. hiding distinction, a full chapter for women whose answer is no, and a 14-question fillable self-assessment. $12.
You did not give up on love. You gave up on the version of love that kept costing more than it gave.
Choosing Me is a 20-page guide for women who are intentionally single — by choice, by exhaustion, or by design — and trying to figure out what comes next. It covers why more women are opting out (backed by real research), how to tell the difference between healed single and hiding single, and what good actually looks like in practice.
It also has a full chapter for women whose answer is simply no — and treats that as the complete, valid outcome it is.
What's Inside
- Chapter 1: How She Got Here — the research, the accumulation, the structural shift that made this possible
- Chapter 2: Healed Single vs. Hiding Single — how to tell the difference honestly, with specific signs for each
- Chapter 3: When the Answer Is No, and That's the Whole Answer — a full chapter treating intentional singlehood as a complete outcome, not a consolation prize
- Chapter 4: What Good Actually Looks Like — green flags worth waiting for, what security feels like vs. looks like, and the Ivory Flag
- Chapter 5: The Self-Assessment — 14 questions across 3 parts, fillable directly in the PDF. Part 1: The Last Relationship. Part 2: What You Are Carrying. Part 3: What You Actually Want.
- Chapter 6: If You Go Back Out There — the flags to know before you start, how to move at your own pace, and how to use the ProfileFlags scanner before your emotions get involved
- Closing: You Are Not Behind
The Ivory Flag
The Ivory Flag is a term coined by Overstand Dating. It is not a flag raised on a person. It is a flag a woman raises for herself — the moment she decides that her peace, her time, and her standards are worth more than a relationship that costs more than it gives.
Not a rejection of love. A higher standard for it.
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20 pages. Fillable PDF. $12.
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